Climbing The Ladder

Do you ever think that life feels like struggling up a huge ladder. We are all getting on it and it’s uphill?  Sometimes we are on the ladder to better relationships, a better job, more money, the road to success in one form or another.

There are even days when we are getting on the ladder just to get out of bed. Those are the toughest ones - when you feel like you are carrying all of your emotional baggage in a sack on your back and it’s so heavy.

It’s such a hard climb, only one step at a time and everything aches while you are carrying this heavy load.  As you figure out how to take your next step you wobble and then you fall off.  You find yourself back at the bottom. Ugh!

When this happens, you may even think that you want to rest and wallow here for a while.  You’ve been here before, energy is low but it’s kind of familiar.  In fact it might even feel safe and warm.  Let me sympathise. I’ve been there, done that, got the tee-shirt.  And this is what it looked like for me when I used to spend time in this place.

I’d sometimes decide to stay for a few days even weeks, feeling warm, safe and familiar.  If I were to make a picture of it, it would look like I had fallen into a pool of my own crap .  Warm and brown, safe and familiar.  I’d have my old friends with me who always show up when I fall off.  There would be all my old limiting beliefs, all my critical self talk and my judgments and self sabotaging behaviours.  We would be sitting there, wallowing together, reminiscing on how many times we had done this.  The level of crap  would go up according to how long I chose to sit there.  The only thing that would have me shift would be when the smell got too bad.  I’d hit my limit.

It was time to wake up to myself.  That’s when I would take stock, take responsibility for myself , find my truth, my clarity and my purpose again. I’d make a new choice. I knew I didn’t want to be back there and I would start making moves and see more of  what I did want. Even although I might feel wobbly and unsure.  I’d put my foot back on the ladder and start again, leaving my old friends behind.  They are old friends, they have spent a long time being part of me, they have helped me become the person I am today.  I am truly grateful when they show up now because they always have something to show and teach me that will help me to grow more. Once I make that choice I instantly start to feel better.  The struggle stops and I let go of the need to hang on to the ladder.

After years of falling off and getting back on, I now know that when I let go, I can live life in a real and truthful way that creates a whole new freedom and joy.  It can be the same for you.  You don’t have to struggle or climb the ladder.  If you know that you want something more, then it’s time to get to know yourself better.

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Top 10 Tips For Self Esteem

In my experience Self Esteem is at the core of everything we are.   The quality of our life depends on how high or low our Self Esteem is.  Do you know that there is nobody who will treat you as badly as the way you treat yourself?

Self Esteem affects every aspect of our lives.  The way you think, feel and behave  and identify yourself comes from high or low Self Esteem.  Self Esteem is all about the relationship we have with ourselves based on our belief system, which comes from our own life experience  Self Esteem is about being in alignment with who you fundamentally are, without the baggage you picked up on the way.  Lack of Self Esteem affects our confidence, trust, acceptance, forgiveness and a whole lot more.

Self Esteem, high or low is a mirror for the way you treat yourself.  The belief system you have been hanging onto for so long can melt away and your Self Esteem.

When our Self Esteem soars then the quality of our life changes and all that we ever wanted becomes possible.

Here are my Top 10 Tips To Boost Your Self Esteem:

1. Start a positive relationship with yourself. Get to know more about who you are and make friends with yourself.Treat yourself like you are your own best friend.
2. Make an agreement with yourself to not use critical language about yourself or others today.
3. Stop “trying” to please other people.
4. Split your day into two. At lunch time take a couple of minutes to think of 2 things you have done that morning that were successful.  For Example, getting to work on time, remembering to feed the dog/cat. Passing your driving test.   At bed time write those 2 things down and add any others and take a few moments.  Notice how that feels in your body as you look at your successes for the day.
5. Make a list of all that you are grateful for in your life every morning.
6. Take some action, change a routine that feels dull, even if it’s just about the first thing you do when you get out of bed.
7. The next time you look in the mirror stop and smile.
8. As you prepare for your day, whether you take 20minutes or 2 hours say yes! to everything that you do.  You might start off thinking this is silly but I guarantee before long you will find yourself smiling and your heart opening. Saying Yes changes your energy!
9. Buy or make yourself a beautiful card.  Write in it ‘Love from Me’ and then post it to yourself.   When it arrives, place it somewhere that you will notice it. Don’t forget to see it.
10. Spend the day with your favourites. Your favourite outfit, shoes, perfume, friends, food and music.

Using any one of these steps will make a difference to your Self Esteem!